Chinese Social Etiquette: Greetings, Gifts & Dining

How to Address People

Chinese names have family name first, given name second. In formal settings use “surname + title” (Wang Jingli / Manager Wang, Li Laoshi / Teacher Li). When unsure of title, “Xiansheng” (Mr.) or “Nvshi” (Ms.) is safest. For elders, “Shushu” (uncle) or “Ayi” (auntie) shows warm respect. First names are only for friends.

Gift-Giving Culture

Gift taboos: never give clocks (sounds like “funeral”), pears (sounds like “separation”), green hats (implies infidelity), or white wrapping (funeral color). Red envelope amounts avoid 4 (sounds like “death”), prefer ending in 6/8/9. Good gifts: tea, fruit boxes, local specialties. Recipients usually don’t open gifts in front of the giver.

Dining Etiquette

Host sits facing the door, guest of honor to the host’s left. Host picks up chopsticks and offers first toast. When clinking glasses, the younger person’s glass rim should be lower. Never stick chopsticks upright in rice (resembles incense for the dead). At lazy susan tables, let elders and guests serve first. Splitting the bill is common among friends, but business dinners are paid by the host.

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